MISSION STATEMENT
No Peace No Quiet, Inc., is dedicated to creating safe spaces online for victims and survivors of domestic violence and abuse.
Not Sure Where to Start?
Age-specific, identity-specific and community support
Intervention programs and accountability resources
FIND SUPPORT
Helplines, shelters, counseling and support groups
Helplines
National Domestic Violence Hotline
Provides free f24/7 confidential crisis intervention, safety planning, emotional support, and referrals to local shelters, legal assistance, and community resources for people experiencing domestic violence.
RAINN (Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network)Provides free 24/7 confidential sexual assault crisis support, emotional assistance, information about medical and reporting options, and referrals to sexual assault services for survivors and their loved ones.
The Deaf HotlineProvides free, confidential, 24/7 American Sign Language crisis support, safety planning, emotional assistance, and referrals for Deaf survivors of domestic violence, sexual assault, stalking, and related abuse.
National Human Trafficking HotlineProvides confidential support, safety information, referrals to local services, and assistance for individuals experiencing or concerned about sex trafficking or labor trafficking.
988 Suicide & Crisis LifelineProvides free, confidential, 24/7 emotional support and crisis counseling for individuals experiencing psychological distress, suicidal thoughts, or mental health crises, including those related to abuse and trauma.
Substance Abuse and Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA)
National Helpline is a free, confidential, 24/7, 365-day-a-year treatment referral and information service (in English and Spanish) for individuals and families facing mental and/or substance use disorders.
Crisis Text Line
Provides free, 24/7, high-quality text-based mental health support and crisis intervention.
Shelters
Domestic Shelters
Provides resources for survivors, loved ones and domestic violence professionals. Free searchable directory of domestic violence shelters and programs.
Salvation Army
Our temporary programs are designed to move people from shelter into stability. Case management and personalized planning, Job-readiness, budgeting and life-skills training, Child care support or referrals for family-based services, Partnering with local agencies to meet community-specific needs.
Safe Havens for Pets
National Directory for sheltering services that help individuals who are experiencing domestic violence or homelessness with a companion animal.
Counseling
National Center on Domestic Violence, Trauma & Mental Health
Trauma-informed mental health resources, education, and advocacy information addressing the intersection of domestic violence and mental health.
Mental Health America (MHA)Provides mental health education, screening tools, and referrals to local mental health services, treatment providers, and peer-support programs.
FindTreatment.govProvides a federal directory of mental health and substance use treatment facilities, helping individuals locate professional counseling, therapy, and recovery services.
Health Resources and Services Administration (HRSA)Provides a searchable directory of community health centers offering affordable healthcare, including mental health services and counseling at participating locations.
American Psychological Association (APA)Provides evidence-based educational resources about psychological treatments for post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD), trauma recovery, and related mental health conditions.
Office for Victims of Crime (OVC)National directory for finding local victim assistance providers, including counseling, shelters, crisis services, and support groups.
Support Groups
Next Door Solutions to Domestic ViolenceOffers survivor-centered counseling, advocacy, and support groups designed to help individuals affected by domestic violence rebuild stability and access community support. Offers virtual support groups that any one can join from any where in the world.
Safety Notice
MHA recommends support groups follow the support group facilitation guide and are peer lead with facilitators who hold the credential of Certified Peer Specialist. The CPS receives in-depth training on the concepts of recovery, peer support, and how to utilize their own journey of recovery to assist others. Be sure to ask any support group you are thinking of joining if they follow this guide, this will help to weed out any possible scammers.
The US Bureau of Labor recommends selecting a coach who has been certified by International Coaching Federation (ICF) or with organizations that are credentialed based on the ICF foundational code of ethics. "Legitimate credentialing organizations, such as the International Coaching Federation, evaluate programs based on specific standards of ethics and competency."
PROTECT YOUR SAFETY
Safety planning, digital privacy and online harassment
Protecting your safety starts with understanding your options. These resources offer practical guidance for creating safety plans, protecting personal information, recognizing technology-facilitated abuse, and responding to stalking, cyberharassment, and privacy violations.
If you suspect someone is monitoring your phone, computer, or online accounts, consider using a device they cannot access before seeking assistance. Making sudden changes to passwords, tracking settings, or connected devices could alert an abusive person and increase safety risks. A community based victim advocate can help you develop a personalized safety plan.
Safety Planning
National Domestic Violence HotlineProvides personalized safety planning tools and practical guidance for individuals experiencing domestic violence, preparing to leave an abusive relationship, or navigating safety concerns after separation.
Stalking Prevention, Awareness, and Resource Center (SPARC)Provides stalking-specific safety planning guidance, risk assessment tools, and incident documentation resources to help victims recognize patterns of stalking, evaluate risks, and develop personal safety strategies.
National Network to End Domestic Violence (NNEDV) , Safety Net ProjectProvides technology safety planning guidance for survivors experiencing cyberstalking, digital monitoring, location tracking, and other forms of technology-facilitated abuse. Safe at Home Programs The state of Minnesota has put together a list of the different states that offer Safe At Home Programs for victims of crimes. Digital Privacy and Personal Information Protection No Peace No Quiet, Inc., Online Safety Tips Learn about online safety tips. Our playlist has tips on how to set up Google alerts to search your name when it is posted online, how to clear your browsing history on your electronic devices, and how to create a new email account. Cyber CollectiveProvides digital privacy education and practical guidance for removing personal information from data broker websites, reducing online exposure, and protecting sensitive information. California Privacy Protection Agency (CPPA)Provides information about California privacy rights and the Delete Request and Opt-Out Platform (DROP), which enables eligible California residents to request the deletion of personal information held by registered data brokers. Website NNEDV Safety Net Project , Technology Safety & Privacy ToolkitProvides comprehensive educational resources covering online privacy, password security, spyware, social media safety, location tracking, smart devices, and protecting personal information from abusive individuals. Federal Trade Commission (FTC) , Stalkerware ProtectionProvides guidance for recognizing stalkerware and spyware, identifying possible unauthorized monitoring of mobile devices, and understanding safer ways to respond to digital surveillance. Online Harassment, Cyberstalking, and Image-Based Abuse No Peace No Quiet, Inc. , Cyber Harassment Reporting KitProvides organization-developed resources to assist victims and survivors with documenting and reporting online harassment, cyberstalking, and other harmful digital behavior. No Peace No Quiet, Inc. , Internet Safety EducationProvides educational content and practical internet safety tips to help individuals identify online risks, protect personal information, and develop safer digital habits. Cyber Civil Rights Initiative (CCRI) Provides 24/7 confidential crisis assistance, emotional support, and referrals for victims of nonconsensual intimate image sharing, recorded sexual assault, and sextortion.
StopNCII.orgProvides a free privacy-focused tool that helps eligible adults prevent or limit the sharing of nonconsensual intimate images on participating online platforms using digital fingerprints generated on the individual's device.
National Center for Missing & Exploited Children (NCMEC) , Take It DownProvides a free tool to help prevent or stop the online sharing of nude, partially nude, or sexually explicit images and videos taken when an individual was under 18, using technology that does not require uploading the original images.
Federal Trade Commission (FTC) , Online Privacy and Image-Based AbuseProvides consumer protection information about online privacy violations, identity theft, nonconsensual intimate image sharing, and available reporting or removal options. NNEDV Safety Net Project , Documentation Tips for SurvivorsProvides guidance for documenting technology-facilitated abuse, including threatening communications, online harassment, stalking incidents, and other digital evidence that may support safety planning or legal proceedings.
Stalking Prevention, Awareness, and Resource Center (SPARC)Provides stalking-specific safety planning guidance, risk assessment tools, and incident documentation resources to help victims recognize patterns of stalking, evaluate risks, and develop personal safety strategies.
National Network to End Domestic Violence (NNEDV) , Safety Net ProjectProvides technology safety planning guidance for survivors experiencing cyberstalking, digital monitoring, location tracking, and other forms of technology-facilitated abuse. Safe at Home Programs The state of Minnesota has put together a list of the different states that offer Safe At Home Programs for victims of crimes. Digital Privacy and Personal Information Protection No Peace No Quiet, Inc., Online Safety Tips Learn about online safety tips. Our playlist has tips on how to set up Google alerts to search your name when it is posted online, how to clear your browsing history on your electronic devices, and how to create a new email account. Cyber CollectiveProvides digital privacy education and practical guidance for removing personal information from data broker websites, reducing online exposure, and protecting sensitive information. California Privacy Protection Agency (CPPA)Provides information about California privacy rights and the Delete Request and Opt-Out Platform (DROP), which enables eligible California residents to request the deletion of personal information held by registered data brokers. Website NNEDV Safety Net Project , Technology Safety & Privacy ToolkitProvides comprehensive educational resources covering online privacy, password security, spyware, social media safety, location tracking, smart devices, and protecting personal information from abusive individuals. Federal Trade Commission (FTC) , Stalkerware ProtectionProvides guidance for recognizing stalkerware and spyware, identifying possible unauthorized monitoring of mobile devices, and understanding safer ways to respond to digital surveillance. Online Harassment, Cyberstalking, and Image-Based Abuse No Peace No Quiet, Inc. , Cyber Harassment Reporting KitProvides organization-developed resources to assist victims and survivors with documenting and reporting online harassment, cyberstalking, and other harmful digital behavior. No Peace No Quiet, Inc. , Internet Safety EducationProvides educational content and practical internet safety tips to help individuals identify online risks, protect personal information, and develop safer digital habits. Cyber Civil Rights Initiative (CCRI) Provides 24/7 confidential crisis assistance, emotional support, and referrals for victims of nonconsensual intimate image sharing, recorded sexual assault, and sextortion.
StopNCII.orgProvides a free privacy-focused tool that helps eligible adults prevent or limit the sharing of nonconsensual intimate images on participating online platforms using digital fingerprints generated on the individual's device.
National Center for Missing & Exploited Children (NCMEC) , Take It DownProvides a free tool to help prevent or stop the online sharing of nude, partially nude, or sexually explicit images and videos taken when an individual was under 18, using technology that does not require uploading the original images.
Federal Trade Commission (FTC) , Online Privacy and Image-Based AbuseProvides consumer protection information about online privacy violations, identity theft, nonconsensual intimate image sharing, and available reporting or removal options. NNEDV Safety Net Project , Documentation Tips for SurvivorsProvides guidance for documenting technology-facilitated abuse, including threatening communications, online harassment, stalking incidents, and other digital evidence that may support safety planning or legal proceedings.
UNDERSTAND ABUSE
Coercive control, gaslighting, trauma bonds and the cycle of abuse
Abuse isn't always physical, and it doesn't always end when a relationship does. Controlling behaviors, emotional manipulation, gaslighting, and repeated cycles of harm can make abuse difficult to recognize and even harder to escape. Understanding these patterns can help victims and survivors recognize harmful behaviors, make informed decisions, and find the support they need.
Recognizing abuse is an important step toward understanding its impact and finding support. These educational resources explain how abuse develops, how manipulation and controlling behaviors affect victims, and why leaving or remaining separated from an abusive person can be difficult.
Understanding Abuse and Coercive Control
DomesticShelters.org , What Is Coercive Control?Explains how patterns of intimidation, isolation, threats, manipulation, and restrictions on personal independence allow abusive individuals to maintain power and control over their victims.
DomesticShelters.org , Understanding the Power and Control Wheel Explains the Power and Control Wheel, a visual educational tool that identifies abusive tactics such as intimidation, financial control, isolation, emotional abuse, and coercion.
National Domestic Violence Hotline , Understanding Relationship AbuseProvides information about the warning signs of domestic violence, including emotional, psychological, physical, sexual, and financial abuse, and explains how controlling behaviors can escalate over time.
Domestic Abuse Intervention Programs (Duluth Model) , Power and Control WheelProvides the original Power and Control Wheel and related educational materials to help survivors identify patterns of coercion, intimidation, isolation, economic abuse, and psychological manipulation. Gaslighting and Psychological Manipulation National Domestic Violence Hotline , What Is Gaslighting?Explains gaslighting as a form of psychological manipulation that causes victims to question their memories, perceptions, and judgment. Identifies common tactics, warning signs, and ways to recognize emotionally abusive behavior.
National Domestic Violence Hotline , Understanding Reactive Abuse Explains how individuals experiencing prolonged abuse may react defensively to manipulation, intimidation, or repeated provocation, and how these responses can be misrepresented or used against survivors. Trauma Bonds and Emotional Attachment Cleveland Clinic , Understanding Trauma BondingExplains how strong emotional attachments can develop through repeated cycles of abuse, manipulation, affection, and reconciliation. Discusses warning signs, psychological responses, and strategies for recognizing and breaking trauma bonds. National Domestic Violence Hotline , Identifying and Overcoming Trauma BondsExplores how alternating periods of abuse and affection can create powerful emotional attachments, making separation difficult even when individuals recognize the relationship is harmful. 5 Ways to Practice Discernment on Social Media to Identify Manipulative People and Avoid a Parasocial Trauma Bond No Peace No Quiet, Inc., Blog | Practicing discernment on social media is crucial for protecting yourself from manipulative individuals and avoiding unhealthy parasocial relationships, which can lead to emotional harm. Especially for survivors of domestic violence and abuse. To avoid falling into parasocial trauma bonds and identify manipulative individuals on social media, it's essential to practice discernment. Understanding the Cycle of Abuse The Complex Dynamics of Love Bombing After Intimate Partner Rape: Understanding the Cycle of Abuse No Peace No Quiet, Inc., Blog |Intimate partner rape is a heinous crime that inflicts not only physical but also profound psychological wounds on its victims. In the aftermath of such trauma, survivors often find themselves ensnared in a complex web of manipulation, where perpetrators employ tactics such as love bombing to maintain control and perpetuate the cycle of abuse. This article delves into the insidious nature of love bombing following intimate partner rape, shedding light on the dynamics at play and the challenges survivors face in breaking free from their abusers. DomesticShelters.org , What Is the Cycle of Abuse?Explains recurring patterns of tension, abusive incidents, reconciliation, and periods of calm. Discusses how these patterns may reinforce fear, emotional dependency, and barriers to leaving an abusive relationship.
Cleveland Clinic , Breaking the Cycle of AbuseExplains the commonly recognized stages of the cycle of abuse, how repeated patterns affect survivors, and why the traditional cycle model does not represent every abusive relationship.
National Domestic Violence Hotline , Dynamics of AbuseExplains how intimidation, manipulation, threats, and controlling behaviors can operate together within abusive relationships, including patterns that continue after separation. Post-Separation Abuse and Ongoing Control Domestic Abuse Intervention Programs , Post-Separation Power and Control WheelProvides educational diagrams identifying patterns of controlling behavior that may continue after separation, including intimidation, harassment, financial manipulation, and the misuse of children or legal processes.
WomensLaw.org , Understanding Coercive Control and Legal ProtectionsProvides California-specific legal information about domestic violence, including coercive control, stalking, harassment, and other behaviors that may qualify for protection under state law. Communication Strategies and Setting Boundaries When dealing with manipulation, gaslighting, or controlling behavior, traditional communication may not always be productive. Strategies such as gray rocking and the JADE method can help individuals recognize unhealthy communication patterns, establish boundaries, and reduce unnecessary engagement. Gray rocking focuses on minimizing emotional engagement, while JADE avoidance focuses on resisting pressure to justify, argue, defend, or explain personal decisions. Neither strategy guarantees safety or prevents abuse, and neither requires a survivor to remain silent about mistreatment. These approaches are not appropriate for every situation, particularly when an abusive person may retaliate. Personal safety planning and professional support should always take priority. Cleveland Clinic , Understanding the Gray Rock MethodExplains the gray rock method, a communication strategy that involves limiting emotional responses and disengaging from manipulative or abusive interactions. Discusses when the approach may be helpful, its limitations, and potential safety risks.
DomesticShelters.org , The Gray Rock MethodProvides practical guidance on using emotionally neutral communication to disengage from abusive individuals, reduce conflict, and maintain boundaries. Explains why this strategy may not be safe in every abusive situation.
Boundary Playbook , Understanding the JADE MethodExplains the JADE principle, which stands for Don't Justify, Argue, Defend, or Explain. This boundary-setting approach encourages individuals to avoid prolonged arguments and unnecessary explanations when dealing with manipulative or controlling behavior.
Anti Toxic People , Understanding JADE AvoidanceExplains how repeatedly justifying decisions, arguing, defending personal boundaries, or explaining oneself can prolong unproductive interactions. Introduces JADE avoidance as a practical communication concept for recognizing and disengaging from manipulative exchanges.
DomesticShelters.org , Understanding the Power and Control Wheel Explains the Power and Control Wheel, a visual educational tool that identifies abusive tactics such as intimidation, financial control, isolation, emotional abuse, and coercion.
National Domestic Violence Hotline , Understanding Relationship AbuseProvides information about the warning signs of domestic violence, including emotional, psychological, physical, sexual, and financial abuse, and explains how controlling behaviors can escalate over time.
Domestic Abuse Intervention Programs (Duluth Model) , Power and Control WheelProvides the original Power and Control Wheel and related educational materials to help survivors identify patterns of coercion, intimidation, isolation, economic abuse, and psychological manipulation. Gaslighting and Psychological Manipulation National Domestic Violence Hotline , What Is Gaslighting?Explains gaslighting as a form of psychological manipulation that causes victims to question their memories, perceptions, and judgment. Identifies common tactics, warning signs, and ways to recognize emotionally abusive behavior.
National Domestic Violence Hotline , Understanding Reactive Abuse Explains how individuals experiencing prolonged abuse may react defensively to manipulation, intimidation, or repeated provocation, and how these responses can be misrepresented or used against survivors. Trauma Bonds and Emotional Attachment Cleveland Clinic , Understanding Trauma BondingExplains how strong emotional attachments can develop through repeated cycles of abuse, manipulation, affection, and reconciliation. Discusses warning signs, psychological responses, and strategies for recognizing and breaking trauma bonds. National Domestic Violence Hotline , Identifying and Overcoming Trauma BondsExplores how alternating periods of abuse and affection can create powerful emotional attachments, making separation difficult even when individuals recognize the relationship is harmful. 5 Ways to Practice Discernment on Social Media to Identify Manipulative People and Avoid a Parasocial Trauma Bond No Peace No Quiet, Inc., Blog | Practicing discernment on social media is crucial for protecting yourself from manipulative individuals and avoiding unhealthy parasocial relationships, which can lead to emotional harm. Especially for survivors of domestic violence and abuse. To avoid falling into parasocial trauma bonds and identify manipulative individuals on social media, it's essential to practice discernment. Understanding the Cycle of Abuse The Complex Dynamics of Love Bombing After Intimate Partner Rape: Understanding the Cycle of Abuse No Peace No Quiet, Inc., Blog |Intimate partner rape is a heinous crime that inflicts not only physical but also profound psychological wounds on its victims. In the aftermath of such trauma, survivors often find themselves ensnared in a complex web of manipulation, where perpetrators employ tactics such as love bombing to maintain control and perpetuate the cycle of abuse. This article delves into the insidious nature of love bombing following intimate partner rape, shedding light on the dynamics at play and the challenges survivors face in breaking free from their abusers. DomesticShelters.org , What Is the Cycle of Abuse?Explains recurring patterns of tension, abusive incidents, reconciliation, and periods of calm. Discusses how these patterns may reinforce fear, emotional dependency, and barriers to leaving an abusive relationship.
Cleveland Clinic , Breaking the Cycle of AbuseExplains the commonly recognized stages of the cycle of abuse, how repeated patterns affect survivors, and why the traditional cycle model does not represent every abusive relationship.
National Domestic Violence Hotline , Dynamics of AbuseExplains how intimidation, manipulation, threats, and controlling behaviors can operate together within abusive relationships, including patterns that continue after separation. Post-Separation Abuse and Ongoing Control Domestic Abuse Intervention Programs , Post-Separation Power and Control WheelProvides educational diagrams identifying patterns of controlling behavior that may continue after separation, including intimidation, harassment, financial manipulation, and the misuse of children or legal processes.
WomensLaw.org , Understanding Coercive Control and Legal ProtectionsProvides California-specific legal information about domestic violence, including coercive control, stalking, harassment, and other behaviors that may qualify for protection under state law. Communication Strategies and Setting Boundaries When dealing with manipulation, gaslighting, or controlling behavior, traditional communication may not always be productive. Strategies such as gray rocking and the JADE method can help individuals recognize unhealthy communication patterns, establish boundaries, and reduce unnecessary engagement. Gray rocking focuses on minimizing emotional engagement, while JADE avoidance focuses on resisting pressure to justify, argue, defend, or explain personal decisions. Neither strategy guarantees safety or prevents abuse, and neither requires a survivor to remain silent about mistreatment. These approaches are not appropriate for every situation, particularly when an abusive person may retaliate. Personal safety planning and professional support should always take priority. Cleveland Clinic , Understanding the Gray Rock MethodExplains the gray rock method, a communication strategy that involves limiting emotional responses and disengaging from manipulative or abusive interactions. Discusses when the approach may be helpful, its limitations, and potential safety risks.
DomesticShelters.org , The Gray Rock MethodProvides practical guidance on using emotionally neutral communication to disengage from abusive individuals, reduce conflict, and maintain boundaries. Explains why this strategy may not be safe in every abusive situation.
Boundary Playbook , Understanding the JADE MethodExplains the JADE principle, which stands for Don't Justify, Argue, Defend, or Explain. This boundary-setting approach encourages individuals to avoid prolonged arguments and unnecessary explanations when dealing with manipulative or controlling behavior.
Anti Toxic People , Understanding JADE AvoidanceExplains how repeatedly justifying decisions, arguing, defending personal boundaries, or explaining oneself can prolong unproductive interactions. Introduces JADE avoidance as a practical communication concept for recognizing and disengaging from manipulative exchanges.
EXPLORE LEGAL RESOURCES
Evidence preservation, victim programs and legal information
Navigating the legal system after experiencing abuse can feel overwhelming, especially when harassment or intimidation continues after separation. These resources provide information about preserving evidence, obtaining protective orders, accessing victim assistance programs, and understanding legal rights. Whether you're considering reporting abuse, preparing for court, or seeking financial assistance, knowing your options can help you make informed decisions about your safety and next steps.
Evidence Preservation and Documentation
No Peace No Quiet, Inc. , Domestic Violence and Abuse Case Building KitProvides organization-developed materials to help victims and survivors organize incidents, document patterns of abuse, and maintain supporting records that may be useful when reporting abuse or seeking legal protection.
No Peace No Quiet, Inc. , Cyber Harassment Reporting KitProvides resources for documenting and reporting online harassment, cyberstalking, and other forms of technology-facilitated abuse.
Oregon Judicial Department , Technology Abuse Evidence Guide Provides educational guidance for self-represented litigants on collecting, organizing, and presenting electronic evidence involving technology-facilitated abuse in court proceedings.
National Network to End Domestic Violence (NNEDV) , Documentation Tips for SurvivorsProvides practical guidance for documenting cyberstalking, threatening messages, online harassment, and technology misuse, including maintaining incident logs and preserving electronic communications.
NNEDV Safety Net Project , Legal Systems ToolkitProvides detailed guidance for legal professionals, advocates, and justice system personnel on identifying, collecting, and understanding digital evidence involving spyware, spoofing, electronic communications, and technology-related abuse. Victim Assistance and Compensation Programs Office for Victims of Crime (OVC) , State Victim Assistance Programs Provides a national directory of state victim assistance and compensation programs that may help eligible crime victims access financial assistance, counseling, medical care, and other recovery-related services.
Office for Victims of Crime (OVC) , Directory of Crime Victim Services Provides a searchable national directory of victim advocacy organizations, legal assistance programs, counseling services, and other resources. Users can search by location, type of crime, and services needed.
California Victim Compensation Board (CalVCB) Provides financial assistance to eligible California crime victims for qualifying expenses, including medical treatment, mental health counseling, relocation, home security, and income loss.
California Secretary of State , Safe at Home Program Provides an address confidentiality program for eligible California survivors of domestic violence, stalking, sexual assault, and certain other crimes, helping protect residential addresses through substitute mailing addresses and mail forwarding.
National Address Confidentiality Program Directory Provides a state-by-state directory of address confidentiality programs designed to help eligible victims and survivors protect their residential information from public disclosure. Legal Information and Assistance WomensLaw.org Provides plain-language, state-specific legal information about domestic violence, stalking, sexual assault, protective orders, family law, custody, immigration, and litigation abuse. Also offers an email hotline for legal information and referrals.
California Courts , Self-Help Guide Provides free legal information, court forms, and step-by-step instructions for requesting, responding to, or renewing protective orders, including domestic violence and civil harassment restraining orders.
LawHelp.org Helps people locate free or low-cost civil legal assistance and state-specific legal information about housing, family law, protective orders, consumer rights, and other civil legal issues. U.S. Department of Justice , Office on Violence Against Women (OVW)Provides information about federally funded legal assistance programs supporting victims of domestic violence, sexual assault, dating violence, and stalking. OVW funds eligible service providers rather than offering direct legal representation. Reporting Crimes and Accessing Legal Protections FBI Internet Crime Complaint Center (IC3) Provides a federal reporting portal for suspected internet-enabled crimes, including unauthorized account access, identity-related cybercrime, online fraud, and other cyber-enabled offenses. Submitting a complaint does not guarantee an investigation.
Federal Trade Commission (FTC) , IdentityTheft.govProvides a federal reporting and recovery resource for identity theft, including personalized recovery steps, guidance for protecting compromised accounts, and tools for addressing fraudulent activity. California Courts , Domestic Violence Restraining OrdersExplains eligibility, filing requirements, court hearings, and procedures for obtaining temporary and longer-term domestic violence restraining orders in California.
California Courts , Civil Harassment Restraining OrdersProvides information about legal protections that may be available when harassment, threats, or stalking involve someone outside the qualifying domestic or family relationship required for a domestic violence restraining order.
NNEDV Safety Net Project , Legal Systems ToolkitProvides detailed guidance for legal professionals, advocates, and justice system personnel on identifying, collecting, and understanding digital evidence involving spyware, spoofing, electronic communications, and technology-related abuse. Victim Assistance and Compensation Programs Office for Victims of Crime (OVC) , State Victim Assistance Programs Provides a national directory of state victim assistance and compensation programs that may help eligible crime victims access financial assistance, counseling, medical care, and other recovery-related services.
Office for Victims of Crime (OVC) , Directory of Crime Victim Services Provides a searchable national directory of victim advocacy organizations, legal assistance programs, counseling services, and other resources. Users can search by location, type of crime, and services needed.
California Victim Compensation Board (CalVCB) Provides financial assistance to eligible California crime victims for qualifying expenses, including medical treatment, mental health counseling, relocation, home security, and income loss.
California Secretary of State , Safe at Home Program Provides an address confidentiality program for eligible California survivors of domestic violence, stalking, sexual assault, and certain other crimes, helping protect residential addresses through substitute mailing addresses and mail forwarding.
National Address Confidentiality Program Directory Provides a state-by-state directory of address confidentiality programs designed to help eligible victims and survivors protect their residential information from public disclosure. Legal Information and Assistance WomensLaw.org Provides plain-language, state-specific legal information about domestic violence, stalking, sexual assault, protective orders, family law, custody, immigration, and litigation abuse. Also offers an email hotline for legal information and referrals.
California Courts , Self-Help Guide Provides free legal information, court forms, and step-by-step instructions for requesting, responding to, or renewing protective orders, including domestic violence and civil harassment restraining orders.
LawHelp.org Helps people locate free or low-cost civil legal assistance and state-specific legal information about housing, family law, protective orders, consumer rights, and other civil legal issues. U.S. Department of Justice , Office on Violence Against Women (OVW)Provides information about federally funded legal assistance programs supporting victims of domestic violence, sexual assault, dating violence, and stalking. OVW funds eligible service providers rather than offering direct legal representation. Reporting Crimes and Accessing Legal Protections FBI Internet Crime Complaint Center (IC3) Provides a federal reporting portal for suspected internet-enabled crimes, including unauthorized account access, identity-related cybercrime, online fraud, and other cyber-enabled offenses. Submitting a complaint does not guarantee an investigation.
Federal Trade Commission (FTC) , IdentityTheft.govProvides a federal reporting and recovery resource for identity theft, including personalized recovery steps, guidance for protecting compromised accounts, and tools for addressing fraudulent activity. California Courts , Domestic Violence Restraining OrdersExplains eligibility, filing requirements, court hearings, and procedures for obtaining temporary and longer-term domestic violence restraining orders in California.
California Courts , Civil Harassment Restraining OrdersProvides information about legal protections that may be available when harassment, threats, or stalking involve someone outside the qualifying domestic or family relationship required for a domestic violence restraining order.
Specialty Resources
Age-specific, identity-specific and community support
Abuse affects people of all ages, identities, cultures, and backgrounds, but access to support isn't always equal. Language barriers, discrimination, disability, cultural expectations, and other circumstances can make seeking help more difficult. These resources connect victims and survivors with organizations that provide specialized advocacy, education, crisis assistance, and community support tailored to their individual needs.
Children, Teens, and Young Adults
Covenant House Provides emergency housing, crisis assistance, and supportive services for young people experiencing homelessness, trafficking, or unsafe living conditions.
National Center for Missing & Exploited Children (NCMEC)Provides reporting assistance, prevention education, and resources for missing children and suspected child sexual exploitation, including online grooming and exploitation. Call 800-843-5678 or report concerns online.
NCMEC , Take It DownProvides a free service to help prevent or stop the online sharing of nude, partially nude, or sexually explicit images and videos taken when someone was under 18.
Childhelp National Child Abuse HotlineProvides confidential crisis counseling, information, and referrals for children, families, and individuals concerned about child abuse or neglect.
StopBullying.gov Provides federal educational resources for recognizing, preventing, and responding to bullying and cyberbullying involving children and adolescents.
Internet Crimes Against Children (ICAC) Task Force ProgramProvides information about law enforcement efforts to investigate technology-facilitated crimes against children, including online exploitation and abuse.
Next Door Solutions to Domestic Violence , Teen Support GroupsOffers advocacy and support programs addressing domestic and dating violence, including age-specific support opportunities for teens. Confirm current virtual group availability and eligibility.
Love Is RespectProvides confidential dating abuse support, relationship education, safety planning, and guidance for teens and young adults experiencing unhealthy or abusive relationships.
LGBTQ+ Survivors
The Network/La RedProvides survivor-centered advocacy, education, and resources addressing partner abuse in LGBTQ+, polyamorous, and other underserved communities.
National Domestic Violence Hotline , LGBTQ+ SupportProvides confidential crisis support, safety planning, and educational resources for LGBTQ+ individuals experiencing relationship abuse, coercive control, or domestic violence.
Next Door Solutions , LGBTQ+ Support GroupsOffers survivor-centered support programs, including LGBTQ+ community-focused support groups and advocacy resources. Confirm current enrollment and schedules.
The Trevor ProjectProvides free, confidential, 24/7 crisis counseling and suicide prevention support for LGBTQ+ young people through telephone and online chat.
Indigenous Women and Native Communities
StrongHearts Native HelplineProvides free, confidential, culturally responsive support, safety planning, and advocacy for American Indian and Alaska Native individuals experiencing domestic or sexual violence.
Coalition to Stop Violence Against Native WomenProvides survivor-centered education, advocacy, and prevention resources addressing domestic violence, sexual assault, trafficking, and violence against Native women and communities.
National Indigenous Women's Resource CenterProvides culturally grounded educational resources, policy advocacy, and training addressing violence against Indigenous women and supporting Tribal communities.
National Indian Child Welfare AssociationProvides education, advocacy, and resources supporting the safety, well-being, and cultural connections of Native children and families.
Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women USAProvides awareness, advocacy, and community resources addressing violence against Indigenous women and supporting families affected by missing and murdered loved ones.
WomensLaw.org , Native American and Tribal Law ResourcesProvides legal information concerning domestic violence, protective orders, Tribal jurisdiction, and legal protections available to Native American survivors.
Immigrant Survivors and Cultural Communities
Tahirih Justice CenterProvides legal advocacy, social services, and educational resources for immigrant women and girls fleeing gender-based violence, including forced marriage, sexual assault, and domestic abuse.
Asian Pacific Institute on Gender-Based ViolenceProvides culturally specific educational resources, research, and training addressing domestic violence, sexual assault, trafficking, and other gender-based violence affecting Asian American, Native Hawaiian, Pacific Islander, Middle Eastern, and North African communities.
Military Personnel and Veterans
Protect Our Defenders , Military Rape Crisis CenterProvides information and support resources for military sexual assault survivors, including advocacy, legal assistance information, and military accountability issues.
Military OneSourceProvides confidential counseling referrals, family support, relationship resources, and other assistance for eligible service members and military families.
Pyramid Military Therapy & Recovery ProgramsProvides information about treatment services and recovery programs addressing trauma, mental health, substance use, and relationship difficulties among military personnel and veterans.
Deaf Survivors and People with Disabilities
The Deaf HotlineProvides free, confidential, 24/7 American Sign Language crisis support, safety planning, emotional assistance, and referrals for Deaf survivors of domestic violence, sexual assault, stalking, and related abuse.
The Deaf Hotline , Deaf Community Resource DirectoryProvides a searchable directory of Deaf-centered advocacy programs and community organizations offering crisis intervention, accessible services, and support throughout the United States. Men and Male Survivors 1in6 Provides educational resources and online peer-support opportunities for men who have experienced sexual abuse or assault, helping survivors understand trauma and explore healing. I Love You Bro ProjectPromotes men's mental health awareness, emotional well-being, and peer connection through education and community-based support. Face It FoundatioProvides peer support, education, and recovery-focused programs for men experiencing depression and related mental health challenges. HeadsUpGuysProvides depression screening tools, mental health education, and practical recovery resources designed to help men recognize symptoms and seek professional support. MovemberProvides men's health education, mental health resources, and suicide prevention initiatives that encourage emotional well-being and help-seeking. American Society for Men's HealthProvides educational resources promoting men's physical and mental health, preventive care, and overall well-being. WomensLaw.org , Male Victims of AbuseProvides legal information and educational resources addressing domestic violence against men, including protective orders, victims' rights, and available legal options. Website Next Door Solutions , Men's Support GroupsOffers community-based domestic violence advocacy and survivor support, including support group opportunities for male survivors. Confirm current group availability. Older Adults and Elder Abuse Eldercare LocatorProvides a national directory connecting older adults, caregivers, and families with local services, including elder abuse assistance, housing, transportation, legal resources, and community support programs.
U.S. Department of Justice , Elder Justice InitiativeProvides information about recognizing, reporting, and responding to elder abuse, neglect, financial exploitation, and other forms of mistreatment, including referrals to Adult Protective Services.
U.S. Department of Justice , Resources for Older SurvivorsProvides educational materials, victims' rights information, and referrals to services for older adults experiencing physical, emotional, sexual, or financial abuse. Reproductive Health ACCESS Reproductive JusticeProvides reproductive health information, practical support, and assistance navigating barriers to reproductive healthcare, particularly for underserved communities. National Abortion FederationProvides information about abortion care, provider referrals, and available assistance for individuals navigating reproductive healthcare decisions. ACLU of Northern CaliforniaProvides civil rights education and advocacy addressing reproductive freedom, privacy protections, discrimination, and access to constitutional rights.
The Deaf Hotline , Deaf Community Resource DirectoryProvides a searchable directory of Deaf-centered advocacy programs and community organizations offering crisis intervention, accessible services, and support throughout the United States. Men and Male Survivors 1in6 Provides educational resources and online peer-support opportunities for men who have experienced sexual abuse or assault, helping survivors understand trauma and explore healing. I Love You Bro ProjectPromotes men's mental health awareness, emotional well-being, and peer connection through education and community-based support. Face It FoundatioProvides peer support, education, and recovery-focused programs for men experiencing depression and related mental health challenges. HeadsUpGuysProvides depression screening tools, mental health education, and practical recovery resources designed to help men recognize symptoms and seek professional support. MovemberProvides men's health education, mental health resources, and suicide prevention initiatives that encourage emotional well-being and help-seeking. American Society for Men's HealthProvides educational resources promoting men's physical and mental health, preventive care, and overall well-being. WomensLaw.org , Male Victims of AbuseProvides legal information and educational resources addressing domestic violence against men, including protective orders, victims' rights, and available legal options. Website Next Door Solutions , Men's Support GroupsOffers community-based domestic violence advocacy and survivor support, including support group opportunities for male survivors. Confirm current group availability. Older Adults and Elder Abuse Eldercare LocatorProvides a national directory connecting older adults, caregivers, and families with local services, including elder abuse assistance, housing, transportation, legal resources, and community support programs.
U.S. Department of Justice , Elder Justice InitiativeProvides information about recognizing, reporting, and responding to elder abuse, neglect, financial exploitation, and other forms of mistreatment, including referrals to Adult Protective Services.
U.S. Department of Justice , Resources for Older SurvivorsProvides educational materials, victims' rights information, and referrals to services for older adults experiencing physical, emotional, sexual, or financial abuse. Reproductive Health ACCESS Reproductive JusticeProvides reproductive health information, practical support, and assistance navigating barriers to reproductive healthcare, particularly for underserved communities. National Abortion FederationProvides information about abortion care, provider referrals, and available assistance for individuals navigating reproductive healthcare decisions. ACLU of Northern CaliforniaProvides civil rights education and advocacy addressing reproductive freedom, privacy protections, discrimination, and access to constitutional rights.
Change Harmful Behavior
Intervention programs and accountability resources
Recognizing harmful behavior is the first step toward changing it. Taking responsibility requires a sustained commitment to ending abuse, respecting boundaries, and developing healthier behaviors. These resources provide intervention programs, education, and guidance for individuals who use abusive or controlling behavior, as well as families and professionals seeking information about accountability.
Abusive behavior is a choice, and changing it requires more than acknowledging the harm caused. Meaningful accountability involves recognizing patterns of manipulation, intimidation, coercive control, and violence, accepting responsibility without blaming others, and committing to sustained behavioral change.
These resources offer specialized intervention programs, educational guidance, and professional support for individuals seeking to stop harmful behavior and develop healthier, nonviolent relationships.
Helplines and Behavior Change Guidance
A Call for Change HelplineProvides free, confidential, anonymous support for adults and teens concerned about their own controlling or abusive relationship behaviors. Offers accountability guidance, behavior-change strategies, and referrals to intervention programs. Family members, friends, and professionals may also contact the helpline.
National Domestic Violence Hotline, Unlearn Controlling Behaviors Existing organizationProvides educational guidance for individuals seeking to recognize and change abusive behaviors, including coercive control, intimidation, jealousy, and manipulation. Discusses self-reflection, personal accountability, healthier behaviors, and professional intervention options.
National Domestic Violence Hotline, Planning for Behavior ChangeExplains how individuals who recognize abusive behaviors can identify harmful patterns, establish specific behavior-change goals, and develop long-term accountability strategies. Domestic Violence Intervention Programs Emerge, Intimate Partner Abuse EducationProvides structured education and counseling programs for individuals who have abused intimate partners. Focuses on identifying controlling behaviors, accepting responsibility, developing nonviolent relationship skills, and improving accountability. Also provides training for professionals working with abusive individuals.
Men Stopping ViolenceProvides education, training, and accountability-focused programming addressing men's use of violence and controlling behavior. Promotes nonviolent relationships, community responsibility, and prevention of domestic abuse. Hope's Door New Beginning Center, Batterer Intervention and Prevention Program (BIPP)Provides a court-approved, 24-week intervention program in Texas that addresses abusive and controlling behaviors, unhealthy relationship beliefs, nonviolent conflict resolution, and personal accountability. Offers virtual classes in English and Spanish, with separate groups for men and women.
Emerge Center Against Domestic Abuse, Men's Education ProgramProvides structured intervention classes for men who have used abusive or controlling behaviors. Emphasizes accepting responsibility, recognizing power and control, developing nonviolent behaviors, and promoting safety for partners and families. Accountability and Relationship Education Center for Relationship Abuse Awareness & ActionProvides educational resources addressing relationship abuse, warning signs, power and control, prevention, and community responsibility. Helps individuals understand abusive relationship dynamics and the importance of accountability. Website Caring DadsProvides a structured intervention model for fathers who have used abusive, neglectful, or controlling parenting behaviors. Focuses on child safety, responsible parenting, understanding the impact of abuse, and improving fathers' relationships with their children. Offers a directory to locate participating programs. Sexual Abuse Prevention and Early Intervention Stop It Now!Provides confidential guidance, prevention education, safety planning, and treatment referrals for individuals concerned about their own or another person's sexual thoughts or behaviors involving children. Helps adults recognize warning signs and take steps to prevent child sexual abuse.
National Domestic Violence Hotline, Unlearn Controlling Behaviors Existing organizationProvides educational guidance for individuals seeking to recognize and change abusive behaviors, including coercive control, intimidation, jealousy, and manipulation. Discusses self-reflection, personal accountability, healthier behaviors, and professional intervention options.
National Domestic Violence Hotline, Planning for Behavior ChangeExplains how individuals who recognize abusive behaviors can identify harmful patterns, establish specific behavior-change goals, and develop long-term accountability strategies. Domestic Violence Intervention Programs Emerge, Intimate Partner Abuse EducationProvides structured education and counseling programs for individuals who have abused intimate partners. Focuses on identifying controlling behaviors, accepting responsibility, developing nonviolent relationship skills, and improving accountability. Also provides training for professionals working with abusive individuals.
Men Stopping ViolenceProvides education, training, and accountability-focused programming addressing men's use of violence and controlling behavior. Promotes nonviolent relationships, community responsibility, and prevention of domestic abuse. Hope's Door New Beginning Center, Batterer Intervention and Prevention Program (BIPP)Provides a court-approved, 24-week intervention program in Texas that addresses abusive and controlling behaviors, unhealthy relationship beliefs, nonviolent conflict resolution, and personal accountability. Offers virtual classes in English and Spanish, with separate groups for men and women.
Emerge Center Against Domestic Abuse, Men's Education ProgramProvides structured intervention classes for men who have used abusive or controlling behaviors. Emphasizes accepting responsibility, recognizing power and control, developing nonviolent behaviors, and promoting safety for partners and families. Accountability and Relationship Education Center for Relationship Abuse Awareness & ActionProvides educational resources addressing relationship abuse, warning signs, power and control, prevention, and community responsibility. Helps individuals understand abusive relationship dynamics and the importance of accountability. Website Caring DadsProvides a structured intervention model for fathers who have used abusive, neglectful, or controlling parenting behaviors. Focuses on child safety, responsible parenting, understanding the impact of abuse, and improving fathers' relationships with their children. Offers a directory to locate participating programs. Sexual Abuse Prevention and Early Intervention Stop It Now!Provides confidential guidance, prevention education, safety planning, and treatment referrals for individuals concerned about their own or another person's sexual thoughts or behaviors involving children. Helps adults recognize warning signs and take steps to prevent child sexual abuse.
Resources
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Online Safety
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How to Delete Your Data From Data Brokers - Learn how to reclaim control over your digital privacy with practical steps and consumer protection laws from CyberCollective.org.
California residents, on January 1, 2026 a new law went into effect where data brokers are required by law to remove your information and keep it off their sites. For more information about the Drop and Delete Act, go the website.
State Sponsored Programs
Every state has different programs available to victims of abuse. Most can offer financial support and pay for your legal, medical, therapy, housing, utility bills and food. Ask your District Attorney’s office or State's Secretary of State's Office for more information on state sponsored programs or you can search for your states programs online by going to the DOJ's website for Office for Victims of Crime (click here)
Safe at Home Programs: The state of Minnesota has put together a list of the different states that offer Safe At Home Programs for victims of crimes. (click here)
Learn More About Abuse
Not Sure Where to Start? Understanding the Patterns of Abuse Is the First Step Toward Finding Support, Safety, and Healing.
Understanding The Cycle Of Abuse
The cycle of abuse is a recurring pattern of harmful behavior that may include tension, abusive incidents, reconciliation, and periods of calm. During reconciliation, an abusive partner may apologize, promise to change, or show affection, creating hope that the abuse will stop. These repeated cycles can strengthen trauma bonds and make it difficult for victims to leave or maintain separation.
Recognizing the cycle of abuse can help survivors identify harmful patterns, understand that abuse is not their fault, and take steps toward safety and independence. Not all abusive relationships follow the same cycle, and abuse can continue or escalate after separation. Safety planning and ongoing support are essential to breaking the cycle.
Learn more about the Cycle of Abuse from Domestic Shelters. What is a Trauma Bond? A trauma bond is a powerful emotional attachment formed through repeated cycles of abuse, manipulation, and affection. This dependency can make it difficult for victims to leave or remain separated from an abusive partner. Trauma bonding is a psychological response to abuse, not a sign of weakness or consent. The National Domestic Violence Hotline commonly cites an average of seven attempts before a victim permanently leaves. Recognizing and breaking trauma bonds can help survivors regain independence and maintain separation. Safety planning and ongoing support remain essential because leaving an abusive relationship doesn't always end the abuse. Learn more about Trauma Bonding from the Cleveland Clinic. What is Coercive Control? Domestic Shelter's spoke with Lisa Aronson Fontes, PhD, about her book, Invisible Chains: Overcoming Coercive Control in Your Intimate Relationship. Fontes describes Coercive control as "... a strategy some people use to dominate their intimate partners and maintain their privileges. It usually includes some combination of isolation, degradation, micromanagement, manipulation, stalking, physical abuse, sexual coercion, threats, and punishment. Not all of these tactics are always present. For instance, an abuser may use no physical violence and control his partner through other means. The concept of coercive control pulls it all together." What is gaslighting? The National Domestic Violence Hotline explains gaslighting as follows, "This term comes from the 1938 stage play Gas Light, in which a husband attempts to drive his wife crazy by dimming the lights (which were powered by gas) in their home, and then he later denies that the light changed when his wife points it out. It is an extremely effective form of emotional abuse that causes a victim to question their own feelings, instincts, and sanity. As a result, the abusive partner has a lot of power (and we know that abuse is about power and control). Indeed, once an abusive partner has broken down the victim’s ability to trust their own perceptions, the victim is more likely to stay in the abusive relationship." - Domestic violence and abuse case building kit, created by NPNQ (click here) - Create a Safety Plan (click here) - Tips for self represented litigants on how to gather technology abuse evidence for Court (click here) Services: - National Sexual Violence Resource Center (click here) - The National Center for Victims of Crimes (click here) - National Center for Domestic Violence, Trauma, and Mental Health (click here) - Futures Without Violence (click here) - Office for Victims of Crime (click here) - FindHelp.org (click here) - National Domestic Violence Hotline (click here)- National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (click here)- National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (click here) - Substance Abuse Help (click here) - Crisis Text Line (click here) - Find a Health Center (click here) Shelters: - Domestic Shelters (click here) - Salvation Army Search for a shelter by zip code (click here) Pet Shelters: - Safe Havens for Pets (click here) Mental Health Services: - American Psychology Association PTSD Treatments (click here) - Mental Health America (MHA) is the nation’s leading community-based nonprofit dedicated to addressing the needs of those living with mental illness and promoting the overall mental health of all. Click on “find help” for more resources. (click here) Find an MHA affiliate in your area. https://arc.mhanational.org/find-an-affiliate Support Groups: - Next Door Solutions, a California based nonprofit, offers virtual support groups that any one can join from any where in the world. (click here) - MHA recommends support groups follow the support group facilitation guide and are peer lead with facilitators who hold the credential of Certified Peer Specialist. The CPS receives in-depth training on the concepts of recovery, peer support, and how to utilize their own journey of recovery to assist others. Be sure to ask any support group you are thinking of joining if they follow this guide, this will help to weed out any possible scammers. Hard copies of this information can be found here. Coaching Services:- The US Bureau of Labor recommends selecting a coach who has been certified by International Coaching Federation (ICF) or with organizations that are credentialed based on the ICF foundational code of ethics. "Legitimate credentialing organizations, such as the International Coaching Federation, evaluate programs based on specific standards of ethics and competency." (click here) - Trauma Informed Coaching is the only organization certified by the ICF for trauma informed coaches. (click here)
Recognizing the cycle of abuse can help survivors identify harmful patterns, understand that abuse is not their fault, and take steps toward safety and independence. Not all abusive relationships follow the same cycle, and abuse can continue or escalate after separation. Safety planning and ongoing support are essential to breaking the cycle.
Learn more about the Cycle of Abuse from Domestic Shelters. What is a Trauma Bond? A trauma bond is a powerful emotional attachment formed through repeated cycles of abuse, manipulation, and affection. This dependency can make it difficult for victims to leave or remain separated from an abusive partner. Trauma bonding is a psychological response to abuse, not a sign of weakness or consent. The National Domestic Violence Hotline commonly cites an average of seven attempts before a victim permanently leaves. Recognizing and breaking trauma bonds can help survivors regain independence and maintain separation. Safety planning and ongoing support remain essential because leaving an abusive relationship doesn't always end the abuse. Learn more about Trauma Bonding from the Cleveland Clinic. What is Coercive Control? Domestic Shelter's spoke with Lisa Aronson Fontes, PhD, about her book, Invisible Chains: Overcoming Coercive Control in Your Intimate Relationship. Fontes describes Coercive control as "... a strategy some people use to dominate their intimate partners and maintain their privileges. It usually includes some combination of isolation, degradation, micromanagement, manipulation, stalking, physical abuse, sexual coercion, threats, and punishment. Not all of these tactics are always present. For instance, an abuser may use no physical violence and control his partner through other means. The concept of coercive control pulls it all together." What is gaslighting? The National Domestic Violence Hotline explains gaslighting as follows, "This term comes from the 1938 stage play Gas Light, in which a husband attempts to drive his wife crazy by dimming the lights (which were powered by gas) in their home, and then he later denies that the light changed when his wife points it out. It is an extremely effective form of emotional abuse that causes a victim to question their own feelings, instincts, and sanity. As a result, the abusive partner has a lot of power (and we know that abuse is about power and control). Indeed, once an abusive partner has broken down the victim’s ability to trust their own perceptions, the victim is more likely to stay in the abusive relationship." - Domestic violence and abuse case building kit, created by NPNQ (click here) - Create a Safety Plan (click here) - Tips for self represented litigants on how to gather technology abuse evidence for Court (click here) Services: - National Sexual Violence Resource Center (click here) - The National Center for Victims of Crimes (click here) - National Center for Domestic Violence, Trauma, and Mental Health (click here) - Futures Without Violence (click here) - Office for Victims of Crime (click here) - FindHelp.org (click here) - National Domestic Violence Hotline (click here)- National Coalition Against Domestic Violence (click here)- National Suicide Prevention Lifeline (click here) - Substance Abuse Help (click here) - Crisis Text Line (click here) - Find a Health Center (click here) Shelters: - Domestic Shelters (click here) - Salvation Army Search for a shelter by zip code (click here) Pet Shelters: - Safe Havens for Pets (click here) Mental Health Services: - American Psychology Association PTSD Treatments (click here) - Mental Health America (MHA) is the nation’s leading community-based nonprofit dedicated to addressing the needs of those living with mental illness and promoting the overall mental health of all. Click on “find help” for more resources. (click here) Find an MHA affiliate in your area. https://arc.mhanational.org/find-an-affiliate Support Groups: - Next Door Solutions, a California based nonprofit, offers virtual support groups that any one can join from any where in the world. (click here) - MHA recommends support groups follow the support group facilitation guide and are peer lead with facilitators who hold the credential of Certified Peer Specialist. The CPS receives in-depth training on the concepts of recovery, peer support, and how to utilize their own journey of recovery to assist others. Be sure to ask any support group you are thinking of joining if they follow this guide, this will help to weed out any possible scammers. Hard copies of this information can be found here. Coaching Services:- The US Bureau of Labor recommends selecting a coach who has been certified by International Coaching Federation (ICF) or with organizations that are credentialed based on the ICF foundational code of ethics. "Legitimate credentialing organizations, such as the International Coaching Federation, evaluate programs based on specific standards of ethics and competency." (click here) - Trauma Informed Coaching is the only organization certified by the ICF for trauma informed coaches. (click here)
Specialty Resources
Under 18:
- Covenant House provides housing and supportive services to youth facing homelessness (click here)
- Internet Crimes Against Children Task Force (click here)
- Child Predators, NCMEC Tip line 1-800-843-5678 or report your tip online (click here)
- Take It Down, this service is one step you can take to help remove online nude, partially nude, or sexually explicit photos and videos taken before you were 18 (click here).- Stop Cyber Bullying (click here)
- Teen Support Group offered by Next Door Solutions, virtual support group any one can join from any where in the world. (click here)
- National Child Abuse Hotline (click here)
Reproductive Choice Support:
- ACLU Northern California (click here)
- Access Reproductive Justice Organization (click here)
- Access Reproductive Justice Healthline (click here)
- Access Reproductive Justice Healthline form (click here)
- National Abortion Federation (click here)
Indigenous Women:
- Coalition to Stop Violence Against Native Women (click here)
- Missing and Murdered Indigenous Women MMIW (click here)
- Native American Resources (click here)
- National Indian Child Welfare Association (click here)
- National Indigenous Women's Resource Center (click here)
- Strong Hearts helpline (click here)
Military:
- Military Rape Crisis Center (click here)
- Military OneSource (click here)
- Pyramid Military Therapy & Recovery Program (click here)
- What causes domestic violence in veterans?
(click here)
LGBTQ+:
- National Domestic Violence Hotline (Click here)
- The Network La Red (click here)
- LGBTQIAP Support Group offered by Next Door Solutions, virtual support group any one can join from any where in the world. (click here)
Men’s Services:
- Write to your legislatures to lobby for change tool kit created by NPNQ (click here)
- National Domestic Violence Hotline Male Victims Support (click here)
- I Love You Bro Project (click here)- 1 in 6 (click here)
- Face It Foundation (click here)- Heads Up Guys (click here)- American Society for Men's Health (click here)
- Movember (click here)
- Men Support Group offered by Next Door Solutions, virtual support group any one can join from any where in the world. (click here)
- Women's Law Male Victims Support (click here)
Other Resources:
- National Deaf Domestic Violence Hotline (click here)
- Honor Crimes Against Women: Tahirih Justice Center (click here)
- Legal Help: Women's Law (click here)
- Cyber Harassment Reporting Kit, created by NPNQ (click here)
- Sextortion Crisis, Thorn (click here)
- Sextortion Crisis Textline text THORN to 741741
- Revenge Porn (click here)
- Revenge Porn Helpline 844-878-2274
- Hacking & ID Theft, Internet Crime Complaint Center (click here)
- Internet Crime Complaint Center 1-800-HHS-TIPS
Homelessness and Sex Trafficking Support - Frontline Response (click here)
Intervention Programs for Abusive Behaviors
NOTE: survivors and abusers are not referred to the same resources for support.
- The Hotline (National Domestic Violence Hotline)Website: www.thehotline.org | Phone: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) or text "START" to 88788
Services: Though primarily for survivors, The Hotline can also connect abusers seeking help to appropriate local intervention programs. They offer confidential, judgment-free conversations and referrals. (click here)
- Emerge (Massachusetts, serves nationally)Website: www.emergedv.com | Phone: (617) 547-9879About: The first BIP in the U.S., Emerge offers group counseling and consultations. They also train other professionals and agencies across the country in abuse intervention practices.
- A Call for Change HelplineWebsite: www.acallforchangehelpline.org | Phone: 1-877-898-3411 (confidential and anonymous)Services: A national helpline specifically for people who use or are concerned they might be using harmful behavior in relationships. No cost, no judgment.
- Men Stopping ViolenceWebsite: www.menstoppingviolence.org | Phone: (404) 270-9894About: Offers training, education, and direct programming for men who have used abuse, with an emphasis on community accountability and social change.
- Center for Relationship Abuse Awareness & ActionWebsite: www.stoprelationshipabuse.org | Phone: 800-799-7233
About: Offers educational resources for addressing relationship abuse, including guides for abusers seeking help and professionals working with them.
- Hope's Door New Beginnings Center
Website: www.hdnbc.org/bipp
About: Our Battering Intervention and Prevention Program is a court-approved 24-week program designed to give clients the tools they need to achieve healthy intimate relationships. Facilitators lead class discussions on the topics of healthy and unhealthy relationships.